How to Beat a False Restraining Order
Author: Drew P. SpaethIn today's political climate, divorce has become a cottage industry & one result has been a huge increase in the filing of false restraining orders in divorce cases. Most often, this affects the man in the divorce. If you are in this situation, you must learn how to beat a restraining order if you are to have any future contact with your children & save your reputation. This article will get you pointed in the right direction. Do not make the mistake of being unprepared. The road to defending yourself is full of pitfalls, any one of which could land you in jail!
One single false accusation from your spouse can have you hit with a false restraining order & subject to criminal prosecution. What is worse, the burden of proof is on YOU! That is right, she has no burden of proof, but you do.
Some unscrupulous lawyers will advise women to file a restraining order because:
1. It is a way to get quick custody of the children WITHOUT a hearing (yes, this CAN happen!)
2. It is a way to maximize alimony & child support payments.
There are two key concepts you need to master in order to learn how to beat a restraining order:
1. You need to become an expert on the restraining order process.
2. You need to take an active role in your case.
As stated in the intro, divorce has become an industry. No one knows the details of your situation better than you do, & no one will look after your best interests better than you. That is why hiring a lawyer to take care of things for you may be the worst thing you can do. You need to be knowledgeable on restraining orders & active in your defense to be successful.
One thing you should NEVER do after a restraining order has been filed is to attempt reconciliation with your wife. Even something as simple as an I'm sorry note or flower delivery violates the order & will land you in JAIL. That is why it is so important for you to become informed. There are too many mistakes like this waiting to happen.
You now have a basic outline on how to beat a restraining order. It is now up to you to become an expert. Your reputation & your children depend on it
i really need help with this my wife has made over 10 or 12 false reports that i haved called her and left sevaral messages on her phone. when in fact i lived with one of her friends and he often used my cellular phone i was setup. and embaresed in front of the court. i now have a one year injunction against me and am not allowed to see my daughter. how do i fight this
ReplyDeleteYour friend should have been subpoenaed to the hearing in order to testify under oath that he was the one making the calls, not you. Sorry about your situation.
Deleteyou need to get on the internet and lookup fathers right read every thing i am in a similar thing and have beat her at every-point you need to become your own lawyer Fast subpoena her friend come to court and cross question her showing you were set up you need to do a LOT Of research and stay clam cool and lookup court guidelines so you know your acting with in them that will make the court see you in a good light Never Never louse your cool curs or us a loud voice in court or with anyone i know its hard but you have to show your in control at all times i hope this helps
Deletefathers rights is bullshit. where are the mothers rights in New Mexico with Judge Lamar.
Deleteshe doesn't care about who is right. it is what is easy for her. She never looked into the false allegations my ex and his family made. that were never true. I said from the begining it was a way for them to take my beautiful children and put me through hell.
He should have testified to this at the restraining order hearing. Now, she has an injunction against you. You will have to try and get back before the judge for a modification hearing of the injunction. Try calling the judges chambers, and ask to be placed on his court docket.
ReplyDeleteAt this time, you better have all your witnesses together. better yet to retain a lawyer, if you can afford one.
A week had passed since receiving the Temp to Perm RO,I had to submit a motion to the court with a vaild reasond to have the motion heard w/ a point by point rebuttle explaination of why the Restraining Order modified or completly expunged... within 1 hour I was granted a new hearing date ...
DeleteMy wife claimed that I violently shoved her into the door of our kitchen and used this as her lie to get a restraining order. My hearing is in one week. In her testimony she wrote that after I shoved her I walked outside with our daughter into the rain. I have looked up the weather data for this particular day and it was not raining. It had not rained for two weeks prior to the date of her allegations and it had not rained two weeks after this date. This is the only provable lie in her testimony. Is this enough to have a TRO thrown out.
ReplyDeleteI bet you did push her into a door. My boyfriend did that to me and then laughed at me. I had to go to the hospital.
DeleteThe fact that it wasn't raining is just a stupid ploy by you the abuser.
I can't believe this stupid response from this Romy person and I have been a victim of extreme violent physical, sexual, emotional and verbal abuse from my husband. But who the hell are you to say anonymous is lying . Get a life, It was probably you that did that to your husband.
DeleteAlthough I am a 73-year-old woman, I am siding with you (Anonymous) because first of all, you (Romy) were not there. Your anger and inappropriate response to Anonymous makes me think that there is more going on with you related to your own situation. Yes, there ARE abusive people in this world. But what you have described is a situation where you are not bound to the person legally. And something of this sort doesn't happen just out of the blue. There are several things under situations like this that can lead to physical action - drugs, alcohol, saying things that are cruel and demeaning, and infidelity. This issue did not just happen out of the blue. There were events leading up to it.
DeleteThere is more to each case than is available to any judge. How can someone reasonably and accurately judge a case in five or ten minutes, especially if the defendant is denied a chance to defend himself or herself.? No case should EVER be decided on such surface evidence. There is ALWAYS "the rest of the story."
I too have been the victim of two staged situations leading to restraining orders against me as a senior. I have never hurt another person physically intentionally, nor have I ever trespassed on anyone else's properties, but I sure have had both done to me.
I was first assaulted by a senior female on the common property of the park. Because there were no witnesses, I had to file a Citizen's Arrest. This woman has a history of doing this to other women as well for no real reason except that she is clearly suffering from severe mental problems. This event in turn led to the two staged events that resulted in staged R.O.'s against me. I was not even given the opportunity to tell my side of it. It is very sad that judges are acting so unfairly and abusing people's rights by their unjustified actions. Counseling with the other person or persons should be court mandated before any R.O. court case.
In the senior park where I lived when all of this happened I had a two-year history of being bullied. When I first moved in, it was people saying mean things to me when I would go for the weekly coffees. But it steadily escalated over time. Hate male was sent to me and to the City where I volunteered. Always unsigned though it was clear who wrote it. This person did not get an R.O. against me but also tried to assault me and in front of a Deputy at a neighborhood watch , but he did nothing except to get between us. His failure to do anything made things worse. Others living next to me tried too and trespassed on my property and damaged it multiple times. Even management and the owner did nothing despite my notes to them. The people living next to me sold and used meth. I did call the police and multiple arrests were made there and everyone knew who called.
The sad thing is that after the staged events and the two R.O.'s, the bullies called management and got their attorney to come to a meeting to which I knew nothing about until AFTER the event. The fact that the attorney came for them, but never once acknowledged anything I said was in fact discrimination, and known to the owner who had to pay the attorney. The day I moved after selling my home to management to get out quickly (at a big loss) for my and my pets' protection, I had to call the police for protection and they had to stay all day and it was hard to get them to stop those people from bullying me in every way possible. The police are not educated in the law at all. They gave me so much inaccurate information it was very sad. I now suffer from severe PTSD, and I have night terrors and sometimes fear of going out in public. I have had to have therapy since that was all over and take meds as well. At one point I was considering ending it all because I could no longer cope. Not one single agency of branch of the law tried to really help me.
Romy!!!! How dare you?!?!!? Shame on you!!! Men have been falsely accused for years!!! I know this for a fact!!! Yes their are men out there who abuses BUT their are just many women if not more who abuses men all BECAUSE they know they can get away with it!! So you are in your situation, but your situation had nothing to do with this man's situation ...You have no right to accuse him ...You don't know him nor know his situation.
DeleteMy husband just had a stay away order of protection served on me 3 days ago. He not only lied to the police and said I threw something at him, his story changed with the court papers. Then that same night I was removed from the house he not only asked 1 but 2 ppl to have me call them on their phones. One being my 22 yr old son and the other being the husband of the friend I'm staying with. Coiurt is March 3,, 6 short but long days.
DeleteProbably not I am afraid. If your daughter sides with your wife, it will not matter. Your wife will probably get the restraining order granted, no matter what. But it is worth trying to catch her in a Lie. As always, it will depend on the Judge.
ReplyDeleteDefeated Dad writes...
ReplyDeleteMy wife has gotten a Restraining Order when in fact In have never harmed her or intended to harm her or my children. She wrote that I had a weapon, and that I threatened to shoot my twin 13 month old girls in the head. The judge heard both sides, asked her if she wanted the RO, and it was granted with the modification that I could see my girls. When I ran to the daycare that same day, she filed a ex parte for custody banning me any contact. The same judge heard the request, I was too busy crying at the daycare I couldnt see them. Its been 17 days, dont know how much longer I can last. Help!!
I would see a lawyer as soon as possible, and fight the order keeping you from your children.
ReplyDeleteThe longer she is successful at keeping you from your children, the more likely she will be rewarded legal custody of them.
It is very common, in a divorce or custody battle, to use the legal system against you, by lying to get restraining orders.
My boyfriend and I got into a fight and he pushed me and my neighbors talked me into getting a restraining order against him. We broke up and got back togather and I went to the court house to get it lifted and judge denied it. We then about a month ago got in a fight at my work and the police came and arrested him. He has a prior domestic violence conviction. Is there anything I can do to get him out of this?? Can I get the order lifted somehow??? Whats going to happen to him??? This is in Broward county, Florida. Please help.
ReplyDeleteYes, get a new boyfriend. What the hell is wrong with you?
DeleteWhy in hell are you so desperate that you want to stay with an abusive person? How the hell dare you defend him if he thinks it's okay to knock women around. It's because of people like you that the rest of us have to put up with shitty behavior from men that get away with abusing people like you. Typically I wouldn't blame the victim, but you want to be one. He clearly did more than just push you. I doubt the neighbors could talk you into filing a nonsense order. Unless you're incredibly stupid and let people talk you into anything, and let people hit you and get away with it.
DeleteI have been reading all these stories an I dont that anyone isn't telling the truth it just sounded ugly to call someone life situation a article cus its really not, were is the line really drawn think about it your boyfriend never should of not 1time. Put his hand on you, ther isn't anything to justify it, if it happens one time it will be a continuance pattern for you an your life, we as woman need to break the cycle an stay strong an dont be sorry that you filed a restraining order he says he is sorry but come on he is only sorry an saying wut you want to hear afther the fact he was served with the order!!! Its just lil when a man or a woman get locked up all the sudden they love you an want to know if you gona be there when they get out or there saying Iam changed an I wont do it again an there ass only been locked up 2day so far so come on dont be dumb
DeleteWas there a restraining order in place when you guys got into a fight at your work place ?
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I are in the beginning stages of a divorce in NC. In fact, neither party has filed for legal separation as of yet. On Thursday afternoon, she accused me of damaging her Vinyl Cutting Machine 'on purpose', to impede her Home based business. After fixing the machine (one of the wires needed to be reconnected), she announced 'that was it', and filed a 'Domestic Abuse Protective Order', having me removed from my residence, and not allowing me to see our Daughter. The order was scheduled to be served on Friday morning, but she decided that because it was filed 'out of anger', and that I was not a danger to either her or my daughter, she called the Sheriff to have the order dissolved, but was obviously told that 'it was too late' and the order had to be served, and we would have to appear in court. Any advice on beating this one, as it was filed under false pretenses, and there are logged calls from her to the Sheriff, requesting the order be dropped. Thanks.
ReplyDeletemy wife has accused me of being abusive and has taken my child when there is no prior abuse claims to anyone in my family and there has never been the cops out to my place and i have all of my sons stuff from medications to clothes i am the primary care provider for my child because she hasn't worked in a year and half and hasn't tried me and my mom take care of my son and she hasn't accused me of abusing him and my son will spend 50% or more of the time at my moms house as long as me and my wife and we spent 20 days or more at my moms house this last month before all these things happened i need to know what are the odds of me getting a counter and getting temporarily custody till this is all straightened out
ReplyDeletei took a route of "judge theres no record of violence in my history
ReplyDeletethis order is not her aginist me. its the state taking away my constutional rights for a crime that hasent happened . its been almost 2 years how much longer is the state going to take away my rights without charging me a crime??
the judge looked over the paperwork and dissmissed the order
Concerned Sister writes. . .
ReplyDeleteMy brother had been with this girl for a little over a year now and for the past several months, she's been playing the "I still love you" game but turning around and slandering him and my family all over the internet. I CAN get the proof to back this up but she persists in making us believe she's the "good guy" when me and my parents know she isn't. She use to live with us and would NOT support her stay, even after my dad told her she couldn't move in with us, and around November of last year - she moved out by telling us she was going to spend a few days with her mom to do laundry. Well the past couple of weeks, she's been avoiding my brother for this other guy and as the fool in love like he was, he was trying to see what she was doing. She would stand him up, lie to him, and just a couple of days ago, he was served an Order of Protection which I'm told is TRO for stalking her, abusing her, and harassing her. How can I help my brother? How can my brother win this?
Also, I was told TRO stay on record. A few years ago, his girlfriend at the time (who was big into drugs) filed a TRO against him too, saying he threw dishes at her and threw her against walls. He won that case but my biggest worry is, if the judge sees he's had one TRO already filed against him, how can my brother avoid any consequences this time around?
Sincerely,
Worried Younger Sister.
I have a restraining order against me. there are 10 statements that are false, altered, and in addition omissions.. In our relationship she welcomed help to find a job. On the other hand she did not tell me I could not visited her unexpectedly, while she visited 2 times a week for a month, and burst in the door while my mom was at my place on April 28th. She was told as well to contact me before coming over, but neither she nor her Independent Living Skill worker did anything to alert me Kelly was coming over. The day she moved her stuff out, she was told by the property manager to stay at her new place, until her stuff arrived. She didn’t do that and came back 2 times, looking through closets, cupboards, bedrooms, the kitchen and the bathroom. Legally because the lease for her ended Tuesday may 1st, she should have not been over here at all. Her family did nothing to move Kelly far away from me. Keeping her in the same neighborhood approximately 300 ft from my front door. The ILS worker didn’t do anything from stopping unwanted visits and her going through the house looking for things. Kelly also tried to take many of my personal items. I have not received them all back yet. Kelly also tried to co hearse my ILS worker against me.
ReplyDeleteMy husband was convicted on a domestic violence charge back in 1989. He served 45 days in jail and had to attend an anger management class. We have lived in Tampa, FL for 28 yrs and during the last 26 yrs, he has held a job. Now, ever since they passed the JENNIFER LUMSTEN ACT which deals with child molestation, employers are now banning all persons with any kind of conviction that deals with bodily harm to another person. Even though domestic violence in not a felony, employers are treating it as such. My husband cannot get a job anywhere because of this. As soon as they do a backround check, they never call him back. Even the day labor places won't send him out. Damn. He was convicited once and now he is bannned from ever holding another job? He's not old enough to retire. What can he do? We are now going to loose our home because I don't make enough to cover the mortgage without his help. Got any suggestions?
ReplyDeleteContact the EEOC at 800-669-4000 asap
DeleteHere in Tampa Florida, it is very easy to do a criminal records background check, simply by going to the Hillsborough County Sheriffs Website. I feel bad for your husband, and any other victims of the Police State that the America of today has become. It used to be if you made a mistake, you could move to another state, and start over.
ReplyDeleteNow, the Computers of today never forget, or let you forget about a past mistake.
Your Husband is screwed, to put it bluntly.
He can try a Legal Name change, but then they can get him by his social security number, if they check his past that way.
Your Husband will be better off working for himself.
im in the military i was gone most of my sons life before that my childs mother refused to move in while she was on maturnity leave she stayed at her familys house wich is 127 miles from where i worked and lived i was not able to quite and move closer to her because my job paid our bills. when i returned from over seas she moved in and we lived together for 4 mounths when the money dried up she left and moved away. i was medically laid of from my jobs shortly after and had an job closer to my son when she found out she filed an order of protection on me knowing i couldnt work at that job with one. court on tuesday what do i do ive never hurt her in my life i have never raised a hand on women in my life how do i beat this
ReplyDeleteUnless we enforce the 2nd Ammendemnt then all of our rights will be taken away and we'll eventually end up in FEMA camps. If they really wanted to protect people they would do their job and hold dangerousness hearings on actual criminal complaints. Time for another Tea Party.
ReplyDeleteget to be an activist....only way these libs are using this under the table as a way to take our guns....
Deletei have been charged with stalking before a po was granted,she has filed bogas reports,made me come over by calling me and acting like we are working on us to get arested for trasspasing,after a falce report from the BIA and wont let me see the report and has used it to file all the charges on me and that was after the cops tryed to manipulate her to do this so thay can attach my ssi back pay and im at ends linth with this ---- if you know what i mean
ReplyDeleteMy ex girlfriend had filed a false claim that I came to her work and tried to talk to her after she had told me to k eave her a lone. The truth wasbi was hanging with my friend alex at my apartment. Will his testimony prove me innocent? Or do I need to do the extra step and ask her job for video tapes of that day to prove that I wasnt even on the premises?
ReplyDeleteMy son in law was arrested for domestic assault and battery on me....police report at court.....and he was granted the protective order for 5 yrs......how did this even happen
ReplyDelete......how will this effect me as a teacher..volunteer..etc. Please please guide me
Different states are different. Here in Tampa Florida, it is very easy to do a criminal records background check, simply by going to the Hillsborough County Sheriffs Website. I feel bad for you, and any other victims of the Police State that the America of today has become. It used to be if you made a mistake, you could move to another state, and start over.
ReplyDeleteNow, the Computers of today never forget, or let you forget about a past mistake.
You could be screwed as a future teacher and volunteer, to put it bluntly.
Having a restraining order granted against you makes YOU look bad! It can even effect your credit rating!
Many places will refuse to take a chance on you , once a restraining order has been filed against you, in case of a lawsuit.
Think about it ?
If they were to hire you, and you ever did really lose your temper and hit someone, they could be sued for negligence for hiring, and ignoring the restraining order that had been filed previously against you.
Even if the restraining order was granted under false circumstances, once it shows up on your police record, you will spend the rest of your life "proving" you are not violent, or a bad person.
my Ex-fiance put a restraining order on me i go to court on 5-21-13 its a permanent protection order hearing here in colorado most of the stuff she claims is false but i gotta prove other wise and i didnt keep ant records of anything cause i trusted her what can i do i already hired a lawyer. does anyone have any suggestions. please help its my credability here at stake
ReplyDeleteTrust your Lawyer Jesse, and fight the restraining order as best you can. Try and get witnesses who have seen the 2 of you together, to prove she is in no danger from you.
ReplyDeleteI kive in Bay County Florida. My wife has an attorney and I don't...She has just filed for and received a temporary restraining order as well as temporary order for custody...All of this is based on lies. My hearing is July 2nd and the key witnesses in my case are the children ages 9 & 14...They are both willing to speak in this case...My questions are a.) If present at the hearing will the children be allowed to tell the truth and b.) If they are will this testimony alone be enough for the judge to rescind the orders? This is all legal staging for our divorce!
ReplyDeleteQuite confident Chris...The kids want to tell how there mom is the aggressor not me...I had a blood filled eye one time for two weeks and a bruised chin another time...During the last incident after hitting me in the chin with a cookie sheet I had put my oxygen on and she walked by disconnected it and in front of our 14 yr. old said I hope you die motherfucker! Granted I knew I should have gone ahead and fired the first shot as far as the restraining orders go...It is just that being a man you feel so cheesy and because I am fully disabled I didn't want the judge to consider charging her with the abuse of the disabled or elderly. This is a felony and I didn't want the kids to watch there mother go to jail! Stupid me!
ReplyDeleteHonestly Chris, I can't believe that the judge did not question the restraining order when for my employment my wife actually put down disabled! I can't even walk and talk for more than 20-30 seconds without becoming short of breath!
ReplyDeleteBe sure to wear your Oxygen into court, also with statements from Doctors you can't breathe w/o it.
DeleteWell isn't the fact that I am disabled something that should have been taken into consideration in the first place?
ReplyDeleteYOU have to bring it up, and speak in your own defense!
ReplyDeleteRemember, she has a paid lawyer speaking for her, you have nothing!~
Never assume the judge knows anything. I bet all this judge knows is what a dangerous prick you can be, because that is what the lawyer for your soon to be Ex Wife is telling her. You must speak up in your own defense, or get someone who can.
Embrace and own your allegations...no one knows the story better than you do and you have to be prepared to have the story picked apart and attempt to be discredited.
DeleteMy partner and I rented a room to two elderly gay guys. We felt bad and had compassion for their "situation" and was cordial, even supportive, when they lived with us. They stayed with us for four months (March-June). Every month there is something happening that they can't pay rent on time. He's paid as late as the 22nd of one month. We eventually agreed to let him pay when he gets his SSI in on the 4th Wednesday of the month for the last month.
ReplyDeleteKeeping that in mind, one guy verbally assaulted us/had mental breakdown and was taken into the ER after living there one month with us. He was then put into the hospital psyche ward for a week+. We were taken by total surprise/shocked/hurt/angry all at the same time. But the other guy apologized, felt bad and told us they had nowhere else to go. We felt really bad when he broke down and actually wanted to help him.
We let them continue to stay only if they guy went to therapy and is seeking help. We let them use our vehicles since they were taking public transportation everywhere. We let them have the house to themselves many times; one, to stay away from them and two, to actually let them have some time to themselves to settle down.
We have everything in text. All the events. And when the 2nd guy took out his frustration and lashed out at me, we told him it was time for them to leave. It was June 6th. We verbally told them to leave by the end of the month. They tried to persuade and manipulate us into letting them stay. We said no. He was angry, you can tell because his demeanor was rude and poor afterward. He even had the audacity to ask my partner to be a reference for future living situations. She agreed to have them put her down, and he tried to coerce her and tried to make her say that they were good tenants. When she said she was going to be honest about it, he walked away angry.
Fast forward to June 25th, one day before they were due to paying us the rent they owe, they put an elder abuse restraining order on both of us, in our own house! We could live there while they move out, but couldn't collect rent or stop them when they leave without rent! We were furious. All the law officials felt bad for us, but they couldn't do anything. We couldn't file a restraining order on them because we had no rights to -- we didn't fall under any of the categories to be able to fill one out! We can't force them to leave that day because we had verbally and not formally written them a note of eviction.
Now it's June 27th, and they moved out yesterday. Not without trying to intimidate us. They had an official come out to watch us, and the official ending up telling him to back off from us! The bigger guy wouldn't leave us alone, and was trying to stare us down. He was extra excessive in moving his stuff, he was yelling at the end. We were afraid they would pull a stunt to have us arrested, so we were advised to keep a camcorder to film that we kept our space and to ourselves -- which we did. When he saw it, he exploded and wanted us arrested. We have him on film angry and yelling. The police was called but they didn't want to comply and come out to arrest us, because we have not done anything wrong. He was furious.
Now that they are out. We are short on rent, hurt, and are fighting to have these ROs refuted. We want to do something to have it put on their records that they have done this before and are scammers. We are trying to find grounds to charge them on. Perjury? False allegations/accusations? We know civil court for our unpaid rent, but we are not even sure if that's going to help us get it.
Please someone help! We want to take actions to stop them from doing this to others! When they came to us, they told us they were "wrongly evicted" from their prior living situation.
Well, unfortunately I have become a victim of FALSE TRO DV. Apparently my to be ex-wife has filed a report agaInst me alleging I physically and verbally assaulted her. It saddens and hurts me to think and know the actual reason why she's taking this route on getting a divorce. Reason being a couple months ago she mentioned an acronym being PAWA, which I did not know what it was nor did I pay attention to her conversation, since it was not with me. I happened to walk to the LEGAL AID FOUNDATION and was going through the pamphlet section and I see the word PAWA. Of course my brain deviates me from the information I was looking for. By the third my brains little voice was now yelling the words PAWA. So I pick up the pamphlet and begin to somewhat read it. It helps undocumented women to stay in the country legally, while helping them to gain benefit for saying they have and were battered by their husband or ex-husband. My to be ex-wife is driven with only one goal in mind, achieving legal status in order to stay in the US. So driven, not caring about whose life she will be ruining, committing perjury, false accusations which may or may not lead to false imprisonment, libel and slander and some more. Not trying trying to keep track right now. In fear of divulging too much of what my not guilty defense, I will stop at this point.
ReplyDeleteI was asulted by two men brought to my house by my now ex girlfriend i was beaten in front of my child i ran next door and called the police..they showed up and where really in my corner..two days later i get a p.o. from her saying i struck her in the face?!?! I have bruises scratches and canot breath properly i took pictures that day of my face body and hands i dident even stike the guys that where asulting me !because of an upcoming discrimination settlement..they have been making threats against me via. Facebook of wich i reported to the police department...i have a court date but cannot afford an attn. Any advice would be greatly apriciated
ReplyDeleteMy son filed for divorce after learning that his wife was going to kidnap the three children and not let him know where they were. He has slept primarily on the floor or couch for most of their 12 years of marriage. She has stated that she did not marry him to be intimate. My son learned in October that his wife had been sexually abused for ten years by her brother. After my son filed for divorce, his wife lied and falsified to get a restraining order on him. He has now been kicked out of his home that he has spent1000 hours in remodeling it. This restraining order will cause him to lose his job. He has never abused his wife. However, she has told him how much she detests him and wants nothing to do with him. Then when she wants another child she threatens to divorce him if he doesn't give her a baby, after him sleeping for months on the couch by himself. He works all day and she does no house work. He takes the two boys to all their activities, sports, school, church, and recreational by himself because she will go nowhere. How can a court system that is suppose to be fair and impartial, allow this to happen? She went on a spending spree that last six months and spent his whole paycheck as well as depleted their $10,000 savings account, mostly for a new wardrobe for herself. My so. Counted over 450 new clothing items just that the wife bought for herself. Please help if you have any suggestions!!
ReplyDeletei have a friend that is having trouble with an injuction she has to move from an incident that happen just before the fourth of july an a person was shot and it was her brother defending her against two men of one had a gun coming to my friends house now the cops arrested the men that shot her brother was out the next day on bond the cop took his gun an ccp license. an said he was wrong. how can they the agressor get an injuction when they was the ones that was the agressors and shot my friends brother no one from my friends she didnt go to jail or the victim now the agressor has an injuction an my friend has to move till a hearing...
ReplyDeleteMy wife filed a restraining order against met after we had an argument that escalated to the point where she called 911. She had learned that calling 911 was the ultimate weapon during an argument and she has some serious anger issues. We had an argument about how she was treating my kids..she had my 5 year old in tears, screaming at her because she was not brushing her teeth fast enough before going to bed. Unfortunately I had been drinking and watching the World Cup with my older daughter of 7 when this happened. He had called 911 once before when we had an argument and knows very well how this would end. 2 months before her estranged cousin got a divorce and reconnected with my wife. from that time on.. she was on the phone or facebook with her all day and sitting my kids in front of the TV. She's a facebook addict and we argued a lot about that.a lot especially when my kids would complain to me about it and that she would hurt them while I was at work. anyway the cops came, I was taken away, she got the temporary emergency restraining order and when the court date came a couple of weeks later she turned on the tears but said that I was a great father and husband when I was not drinking but she was afraid and wanted mandatory alcohol treatment. He gave her a 6 months restraining order.. even asked her how long she wanted.. and gave me mandatory alcohol assessment..I went and am currently undergoing treatment and doing well.. sober for over a month and have vowed to not drink again even though I was not a habitual drinker. I will not ever let her have that advantage again. I could care less if I ever see her agian but I have so many legal issues with the townhome I just paid cash for, visitation with my children as for 6 months she controls when I can visit them.. joint tax issues.. all of my belongings are there and I'm living with my parents and she's asling them for me to send money for the bills in a home where I'm not allowed to live in or visit at least for 6 months until it expires and she may ask for another extension then.. what the hell is a father supposed to do?
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend sister filed a order of protection against me because I reported her at work because she's been spreading about me and my boyfriend they told her to stay away from or she would be terminated the next day she filed an order of protection against me she even wrote on the order that she wanted it because I reported her she also says I'm the one harassing her but she has no proof what can I do to male sure I win btw I'm also pregnant at the moment and have had no contact with her in months and I been ordered to stay away from my work office
ReplyDeleteIf there is a current protective order in place, and the abuser ask a police officer to contact me even, does this constitute to a violation?
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Need info please!!! Hi..I live in PA.I'm 18 and. My boyfriend is 17,my mother is on pills and hates my boyfriend.she had me 302ed saying I said I was going to kill myself.and is trying to get me to sign a restraint order against him for abuse and its not true.we want to get married asap.my questioned is if we are married will that put a stop to her being allowed to get restraint orders on my behalf with out my permission?
ReplyDeleteI am getting ready to attend the court date for the restraining order to be placed on my adult daughter who has in fact committed domestic violence on me twice. This is the second time I have had to go get an order of protection. She says that she is willing to go seek help, such as anger management and therapy. If in fact she does, can the restraining order be modified at that time? Otherwise if she doesn't seek help it leaves me no choice but to follow through with it.
ReplyDeleteI let my spouse know that I was planning on filing divorce paper a few months ahead of time. We had been separated for 8 years and both of my daughters lived with me during that time. My youngest was 3 at the time of separation and the eldest was 8 years old. During this time I rarely ever asked for anything monetary support. Maybe once or twice a year I would ask that he buy one of the daughters their glasses and I would buy them for the other daughter or that we would pay half for school supplies. Other than that I did everything. My daughters were 11 and 16 during this year and had been living with me the whole time. The eldest has Asperger's Sydrome / OCD / Autism. My spouse has never been able to handle her disability and calls her "the retard" and "the failed project". But, after we were separated I tried to be fair about everything and tried to cultivate a good relationship with their father for their sakes. The both saw him every weekend and about half of the days that they had off of school. About two years ago my eldest daughter and her father both decided that they didn't want to see one another anymore. She hates him and he can't handle her (dislikes). I tried to get them to continue seeing each other but it was clear neither would. So, my youngest continued to see her father and it became 3 weekends out of every month and half of all days off of school. During the past 5 or so years he never gave any monetary support at all to me. In the divorce papers that I filed on my own without an attorney I made everything just as it had been during the 8 years of our separation. I wanted him to agree to it and just sign. It was only getting on paper what was already in place as far as living arrangments, visitation, etc. He ignored my requests to sit down with him and go over the papers to sign them for a couple of months. So, I filed them on my own. The following day he filed an injunction against my eldest daughter on behalf of my youngest daughter in a county that neither or us live or work in. They granted it. He said that my youngest daughter ran away, that I called her names, and that her older sister has the disability that made her attack her younger sister. None of those things happened. Both of my daughters and myself agree none of it happened. But, it was granted anyway. Then, the sheriff came and took my younger daughter away and served the injunction papers on my eldest daughter. Eventually the injunction and divorce were consolidated into one case on my request in the county in which we reside. I wanted the judge to see the false nature of the injunction and its relation to the divorce case. But, now he has been stalling and it's been almost seven months without my youngest daughter! How can I prove to the judge that he filed this injunction simply as a way to get custody? The only thing that would have changed had we divorced was that the state would have ordered him to pay child support.
ReplyDeleteMy ex wife stole over a quarter of a million dollars of inherited funds from me, tried to steal all my property and land. She used and lied to get a restraining order to get the sheriff to take my gun collection, which she also wanted. We're talking over 300 valuable firearms. The court issued the order despite no evidence, and in fact she was caught lieing on the stand. Second, the ten day mandated hearing was not held for almost three years, also violating the law. Third, after almost three years, the court issued a year long order. This was found to be illegal by the Court of Appeals. I cannot sue due to immunity of the judges. I found all six district court judges in corruption, and they all recused. A judge from another district heard this crap, and ended it, returning my firearms. The wife, then losing, fled to another state and filed chapter 7 bankruptcy. That opened another nightmare. This restraining order crap violated the second, fourth, fifth, sixth, and other amendments. It is illegal as all hell. It must stop . It is a cash cow for many, including the lawyers and courts. It is near impossible to defeat one of these. Usually criminal charges are issued in addition to the civil order. Remember, there is no standard of proof in civil cases like restraining orders. In criminal cases, proof beyond a reasonable doubt, is the standard. It was relatively easy to defeat the criminal case, just demand jury trial. The court knew there was no case.
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ReplyDeleteMy girlfriend n I got into a argument. The same day she filed a restraining order. She listed every single problem we have had since we started dating at the age of 16. I couldn't figure out why she did it. It's been a month since the judge granted her the restraining order. I have been arrested once n while in jail, she called on me again, for reasons I don't know yet. I just found out, she's doing all of this cuz she has been seeing someone else. Can I still appeal my case? I didn't fight her on the restraining order because we have a child together.
ReplyDeleteHelp! My ex is angry because I broke up with her and moved on. I'm currently engaged and about to wed. We are under contract to buy a new house that is within a mile of my ex. She got the judge to modify the ppo to include an 834 house neighborhood. She offered no evidence of d.v., or stalking. What can I do?
ReplyDeleteI'm lost my husband got a restraining order on me and I have to leave right then. I wasn't aloud to even get my clothes. I didn't know what to do I had no clue this was going to happen and I had no where to go. It has been almost a year now and I bought a cheap house and was fixing it up and about a Lil over a month some caught my house on fire and the city is making me tare it down. Then October 24 I was stayin b with a friend and someone caught my car on fire so now I'm back to having nothing and he has everything and says he owes me nothing I'm not working right now I'm falling into deep deep depression and I just don't know what to do. We was married for 15 years and he had been planning this he told me I could stay at the house for a Lil bit and when it was time to go to court when the temporary exparte order was up he told me don't worry he wasn't going and that I didn't need to and he got dressed in his grimy work clothes and off he went just to fund out he met his girlfriend that is also married and she took him to court so I wasn't even the to defend myself. He has now bought several houses for this girlfriend of his and I didn't get even my things I even found out she is a insurance agent and he gets life insurance threw her and she made herself 100% beneficiary of one hundred and seventy thousand dollars I can't afford a lawyer and I would have to get a good to one to fight with him because he is alway one step ahead of me I just want to give up I just don't know what to do:-(
ReplyDeleteI live in Florida and was woeking in Texas making 7 thousand a month when I got a call from my wife that my 24 year old son was injured in a single cae wreck i flew back to florida and spent every day and every night with him in ICU and he was released to rehab with a TBI trumatic brain injury. My wife and 21 year old daughter was scared of my son . so when he got out of rehab I was going to have a walk in shower built because I did not want him to fall getting in and out of the bath tub. but I started looking at our bank statement and seen I was removed off the bank account and started looking deeper and she left me with 13 dollars in the bank well by this time I opend my own account and said we will split every thing so life got strange real fast she told me one day before thanksgivving she wanted a divorce I think its because sh did not visit my sn very often and she felt guilty well any way I told her she wants the divorce then move out of my house so my disableed son and I can move in I also told her she had to keep paying her part of the bills because we were maired 27 years long story short I told her she was a bitch and cunt low life for doing this when our son needs us both and maybe a few other choice words out of anger but never threatend her in any way I did say if I found out she was seeing someone else I will kill that person so she ran down and field a temp injuction for protection against domestic violence with out minor childrean so what can I do I am and have been his sole care giver and buy every thing from meds to all the gas evean she has my lexus sitting in the drive way and I asked to use it and she said I was not toiching her car it cost me 25 dollars every day to take him to reham. is there any way I can turn this around and stick her for filing a false report and get her to help me pay for his care please any help I go to court on 12/16 2015 and I lost my job soon after his wreck in august and Ive been with him and did not know she was draining my account and was going to ask for a divorce help me fast.
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DeleteMy friend has been falsely accused of breaking his restraining order and has a warrent out for his arrest what should he do? (North Carolina) please email me at 342525@mhspatriots.com
ReplyDeleteMy friend has been falsely accused of breaking his restraining order and has a warrent out for his arrest what should he do? (North Carolina) please email me at 342525@mhspatriots.com
ReplyDeleteMy exwife claimed I threatened her and got a TRO and I was removed from my own home. She then claimed I violated the TRO and had me arrested 3 times. Each time the cases were dropped for lack of evidence or more truthfully no evidence. This order was in effect for 1 year. It was the longest year of my life. I lost my wife (she was having an affair that I was unaware of)my house, my business and almost all of my personal possessions. I want to make this clear. This happened to me because I went to court without a lawyer. I thought all I had to do is tell the truth. The court doesn't want to hear the truth. If this happens to you GET A GOOD ATTORNEY. She will and you will find yourself in big trouble through no fault of your own.
ReplyDeleteI Have gotten a lawyer costing me plenty I am fighting for my rights but more importantly for my 3 girls. false allegations and yes she was cheating on me. claims threats to her and children repeatedly. all lies I hope my attorney can fix this so I can get a fair shot at the divorce which will be next. and yes I have proof of the affair thanks cheaters microphones.
DeleteMy husband's ex wife filed a police reporting stating her 26 year old from her first marriage is now telling her that 10 years ago (when my husband was married to his ex wife) my husband would rub her back and make her feel uncomfortable and would drive with his hand between her legs when she was in the car. The ex wife stated in police report that their daughter together who is 12 is now saying the same thing. She stated she went and asked her 16 year old (from another father) if anything happened to her. She told her mom when she was 6 she was fondled by my husband. A little bit of history: In their divorce in 2008 she triEd to put in the divorce papers that she did not want my husband to have the little boy who was 2 years old at the time overnight because he has Down syndrome and felt my husband could not deal with that. My husband refuse that it was his child and he will have visitation with him so it was not put in the divorce paper. In 2009 she took my husband back to court in an emergency hearing stating that she saw a picture of the little girl,who would have been about 5 years old at that time. She was sitting on a motorcycle and didn't have a helmet on her. She wanted to stop visitation with both kids. 3 years ago she called DCF (kids were 7 and 9) in locked car while he ran in to store to by Tylenol. He could not see his kids during this Investigation. Since she had DCF involved she then proceed to complain because of younger boy being spanked a couple of times. Nothing came of DCF investigation. Was told leaving kids in car was okay because daughter was mature enough and had her cell phone. They told mother that parenting can be different from house to house. As long as no bruises on kids, spanking was okay. After that investigation was over, she told my husband that the 7 year old could no longer have Wedensday night visits (which was until 8:30) because he has trouble getting up for school and now has a bed time of 6:30.
ReplyDeleteSo he only sees him 4 days a month. He still picks up his daughter and takes her to church every Wednesday. In last year she has told him she needed to change weekends with him, completely take his weekens, not allowed him to see kids over Christmas break and told him this upcoming Easter break she has plans for kids the full 10 days during Easter so he won't be able to have them his weekend. His mom is coming from Nebraska and planned on seeing kids but not now. After her doing police report, she obtained restraining order and now awaiting injunction hearing. She called the 18 year old neighbor girl and asked her to help with the story they are telling to make it more believable. Her goal has been to eliminate the Father's visitation rights. Is it important that we deposition neighbor girl as well as the 2 people the neighbor girl told? How important is that we paint a picture of her history with trying to keep the father out of the kids life? We have to hire a civil lawyer and criminal lawyer. It has cost over $12,000 so far. She is using legal aid so she doesn't have attorney fees. The police department is waiting to see if injunction is granted before they make a decision to go to states attorney for criminal charges. She wants him not to see kids but wants him to pay child support. I feel that's why she said only fondling happened with child that wasn't theirs together. Any suggestions or comments? The ex wife also told the neighbor girl that her goal is to have full custody of the two kids.
Hello everyone I need alittle help this is my first time my wife put an injunction on me and on the paper work it stated that I have my kids Saturday over night and she has not drop them off for 3weeks. I am not a woman hitter she split up with me for a dope head.so yeah all I want to do is see my kids with out paying a arm and a leg to see my kids
ReplyDeleteHello everyone I need alittle help this is my first time my wife put an injunction on me and on the paper work it stated that I have my kids Saturday over night and she has not drop them off for 3weeks. I am not a woman hitter she split up with me for a dope head.so yeah all I want to do is see my kids with out paying a arm and a leg to see my kids
ReplyDeleteThis site appears to be leaning towards talking about men getting the ROs placed on them. Hopefully, I am still welcome here. I am a woman who had a husband who is a narcissistic sociopath (though I don't think he was diagnosed). He attacked me over the years, yet usually it was crazy psychological torture (on and on of what he could or would do to me if I left). Neighbors had been calling the cops for years on him, yet he usually took off before they got there, so no official reports were made. The last time, the police arrested me for the first time I defended myself. I was scared and was nursing my son, so I said I just need to go home. I was threatened in jail and really did not understand squat as I have audio processing disorder--court arraignment was a blur. He took me back to Family Court and put a 5 year RO on me so I have not been with my kids since 2011. I never knew what to do. I had no money, so after I tried calling anyone I could think of for years that might be able to help me and the kids (getting nowhere), I said screw it and started going to school and fixing up the house so when the RO was over (or ex died from the excessive drinking) the kids could come home. Now he illegally attempted to "give" the kids to his parents. I took him to court, the judge said he should not have tried to give the kids to his parents (but did nothing really) and said until the RO is dropped, her hands were tied. Child Support is now after me because ex's DAD filed for welfare for the kids, because ex's DAD thinks he is the custodial parent. This is all so asinine. It seems like the right hand has no clue as to what the left is doing, when it comes to the courts. Frustrated to no end. Miss my babies with all of my heart.
ReplyDeleteI was served a personal protection order by my abusive boyfriend. The very day he filed the order, he had tried texting me 14 times and I did not respond. Now he has friends falsely stating that I yelled at them that I was going to beat them up. Really? There were 5 people there - all of them huge - and I weigh 100 lbs and am 5 ft tall. I contacted an attorney and am fighting it. Have 14 days to respond. I believe he did this because he was mad at me for not responding to him. This is crazy!
ReplyDeleteMy husband has a order of protection on him to not be able to have contact with me put on him not out of any request of mine. Actually the exact opposite. The Judge who put the order of protection on him happens to be the same Judge that married us. He is on parole, however we were under the impression the order had expired, and nowhere in his parole conditions did it mention any such order or my name at all. His parole officer made a home visit, observed me with him in his residence, told us there was an order of protection and that I had to leave. Not wanting to create any problems, I did just that. The next time he reported to parole they had written up a new condition for the order of protection and added it to his conditions. He is now incarcerated for violating the order of protection for the date before it was added to his parole conditions. Before I was married my ex-boyfriend had violated a restraining order on him 4 different times and had to appear in front of the same Judge whom never charged him with anything. I tried to have the order of protection modified due it's outlandish timeframe of 5 years and was denied. What can I do to prove my husbands innocence, show that the Judge behind both cases obviously has a bias due to my husband being on parole not violating anything and sentenced to 1 year in prison, when previously he had let my ex-boyfriend go unpunished and dismissed after violating his restraining order 4 different and separate times? Furthermore, is there any way possible or any other route I can take to have this order of protection removed from my husband? I appreciate and anticipate any help or advice that you can provide me with.
ReplyDeleteNext Wednesday I will be going in front of the judge to defend myself for violating a stalking order. The order was obtained by my ex-wife. The circumstances were that she and I were talking about working on our relationship. A couple of days later I found out she was dating someone. We got into a big fight via text and I ended up making some vulgar comments about her other daughter's father and how she doesn't make him pay child support but freaks out on me if I'm late on a payment. Once I made those comments she told me to stop talking to her, but I sent 4 or 5 more texts anyway. She contacted me by email right after that in response to my texts. She got the order by telling them I was harassing her. She used the text thread to show she had asked me not to talk to her, but didn't show she had continued arguing with me over email. She also said that I had entered her residence when she told me not to. She did tell me not to come in when I went to drop my daughter off, but I respected it as irritating as it might have been and did not go in.
ReplyDeleteI was a complete idiot and when I was served, I emailed my ex and told her to please stop this and that if she wanted me to leave her alone, I would. I told her we didn't need the court for that (I didn't realize at the time she couldn't drop it if she wanted to). Of course, she took that email and turned it in and I was subsequently arrested. I guess, long story short, I'd like to know if trying to prove the protective order was given under false pretenses, I could beat the charge. We've already had the hearing for the protective order and my ex was again wanting to get back together with me, so she told the judge she no longer wanted the order and it was dismissed. Any input on whether a defense predicated on the fact that the order should never have been granted is viable?
I made the mistake of sending flowers to her saying only that her happiness in friendship was the most important thing to me and I was sorry for everything I don't understand how Friday I was over at her house helping her and then Monday she took out this order Sunday I did get drunk and call her repeatedly like all drunk guys do when they miss someone but I did not say anything wrong I'm hoping time will make things better any thoughts
DeleteI made the mistake of sending flowers to her saying only that her happiness in friendship was the most important thing to me and I was sorry for everything I don't understand how Friday I was over at her house helping her and then Monday she took out this order Sunday I did get drunk and call her repeatedly like all drunk guys do when they miss someone but I did not say anything wrong I'm hoping time will make things better any thoughts
DeleteHi my wife had me removed from our home I never hit or pushed her what happens was she would spend to much money and leave us with no money for food or gas I got hurt and can't work right now she has nothing proving I hit or pushed her I should not have made her feel scared that's on me I am starting counseling on this Tuesday for my temper and I found out I can get unemployment witch I filled for i love my wife and I need her In my life she dosnt know how to communicate I want us to to counseling together because I don't want to lose her if there is no prove of violence and I'm getting help with my temper will I be able to go home we live in IL
ReplyDeleteMy husband has lied about me doing drugs and has gotten a restraining order on me. He has taken my daughter away from me. What can I do to prove these accusations aren't true?
ReplyDeleteI had gotten a restraining order on my boyfriend 2-3 years ago while we were fighting for rights to our children. Earlier this year while we were waiting for the judge i was served with a restraining order because he went down and said that I had threatened him in front of the social worker. I have an email from the social worker saying that no I didnt threaten and no that she did not know he based his restraining order claiming that she heard me. Well now i have 44 cows 3 horses 2 mules and i need to be able to get a weapon just incase i need to put them down. Last year we had alot of problems with coyotes mauling the new borns and momma cows. I just recently went to obtain a gun my background passed as i have never been in trouble but then when i went to go pick up the firearm doj said i had been denied. What can i do to fix this? How can i get on the court calendar to plead with the judge?
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ReplyDeleteI haven't spoke with my ex for a couple years, all communication was over text because I knew the Kind of person she is. Well my daughter wants to come to live with me and I am taking her to court, so now to prevent me to have any contact with my child She invented it a false testimony saying I called her and told her I was going to punch her on the face and knock her teeth out. How can they do that with any proof or whatsoever. Where are my rights as a father. My court day is in a few days, any advise?
I also have a pfa on me despite never doing anything more than yelling at my wife. I should have seen it coming as she developed a habit of calling the police every time we had an argument to win it quickly and put me in my place. Despite no proof of violence or threats, my lawyer said it would be impossible to fight, simply because she would seem credible in front of the judge, especially with all of the police calls. We took a plea for a 1 year temporary PFA, which can eventually be expunged in my state.
ReplyDeleteThe worst thing about this is that she has used this as a custody weapon. She also included my children on the PFA and added the stipulation that she would only allow supervised visitation with my mother who lives hours away. Despite the PFA, I have successfully gained visitation by filing a custody complaint, but she is being extremely hostile and fighting the court for each and every hour I get to spend with them.
She hasn't filed a divorce yet, and I think that will take some time, and might never actually happen. She only has a terrible part time job that she does from home. She could never make ends meet without the nearly 100% of my salary she currently gets. She is now planning on homeschooling one of our children, so it doesn't sound like she'll be looking for full time work real hard.
I am on the fence about if and when to file myself. The more this goes on, the worse I think she is going to look, especially concerning parenting issues, which was a major component of our differences. It seems like a house of cards that will fall soon one way or another. I'm also kind of hoping that this experience will give her time and space to come to her senses, but I'm worried if I can withstand the further financial damage that might also unfurl.
My son took his life on March 16, 2017. He had been living with his girlfriend up until March 15, 2017. She threatened to file rape charges against him if he did not come back. He was done with her & did not go back. She harassed him all night & he took his life in the early morning. She was informed of his death on the afternoon of March 16th. On March 20th, I had a sheriff at my door to serve my son with PFA papers that were filed March 17th in the afternoon. How can a deceased person be considered a risk for further abuse? How can she get away with it?
ReplyDeleteMy ex wife got a bullshit restraining order. I went over there a few rimes she just yell at me for no reason I just wanna see my boys. She called the cops because her friends are telling her to. It hurts so much. Now there is a court date for violating the order. Screw the DA. Bastards.I just wanna be apart of there lives.
ReplyDeleteMy sisters father in law has tenants on his second farmsite that also has his shop on it. Last week his tenants son and a friend trespassed on a field to bow hunt. The father in law snuck up behind the one kid and fired two shots in the air he then asked the kid to leave. He also fired two shots in the air in the direction of the tenants son. The tenants son went back and told his dad that the landlord fired at him. So big bitching session on behalf of the tenant to the landlord. The tenants wife then went and filed a restraining order on the landlord. How can she file the restraining order if she wasn't around?
ReplyDeleteI am the wife and my husband put a false RO on me, and now that we are back together trying to get this removed is almost impossible, and what really sucks is his 30 year old daughter called the cops and they came and arrested me while I was sleeping in bed. Does anyone know how I can beat this? We got the order from family court dropped but it took 3 months to see the judge, now in criminal court we just keep getting the run around. How do I have this dropped. Can someone that doesnt live in your home call the cops and report that your living there and get you arrested and then the DA wont drop it even thought we both have been to court 4 times, now we go back in 2 months, how can I get this dropped the DA knows we have been back together for almost 2 years now. How can they force us not to make our marriage work? This is so unfair. My step daughter did this because she wants to get rid of me. My husband is in the middle of this but it is bad parenting but I am the one getting charged with it, and I lost my job because of it also, they said I was a flight risk and I did tell them the truth on my application but I still lost my job. I can't seem to get beyond this. Please is there any stipulations in the Law that says that they are allowed to force you to divorce even after you have reconciled, please advise.
ReplyDeleteIf you reconciled how do you get the RO removed in criminal court, the family court judge dropped it and now we have criminal court and the DA wont dropped the case even though we both have been there together 4 times. Why wont the DA drop it, I never laid a hand on my husband, we been back together for 2 years and we didn't call my step daughter did it to spite me. She is 30 and doesn't live with us. Why is she allowed to call the police? and have me arrested, I was in bed sleeping, they had to come and get me out of bed and arrested me and took me to jail my husband bailed me out but we are still dealing with this. How do we get the DA to drop the case? OC, CA.
ReplyDeleteYou women and your police calling , making false charges on men , thinking you have all control of the children are one day getting karma to smack you straight down. And one day all your lies will catch up with you all and not only will you lose that man to a good woman and kids will grow up to hate you. I'm so suck of these crying ass so called woman and the abuse they give the men today and use the law to just lie to and I think its time to change these stupid laws on woman that lie and put restraining orders on these men. Don't get me wrong there are many of bad men out their but there are more lieing abusive women. I'm just sick of it and to many men suffer from the hands of these women. Men out there if she is abusive and always calling the law pressing charges get rid of her worthless ass.........
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine is being kept away from his newborn child because his ex filed a VPO against him. The VPO was granted because his job would not let him get off work the day of the hearing. (Threatened to terminate employment if he didn't show). So it was granted by default. He doesn't make enough money to hire a lawyer and he doesn't know what he can do to appeal the decision. He doesn't want contact with his ex. He is only wanting contact with his child. Her family has lied for her saying that he was harassing her because they do not like him and felt she could do better. What can he do to get the VPO reopened without a lawyer?
ReplyDeleteI am at a loss my X wife filed a temp custody order against me which I defeated. To over rule the custody order she filed a restraining order because I texted messaged her more than one time per day. Not threating messages or abusive in nature. At the hearing she lied under oath, the judge coached her while she was testifying and while she was cross examining myself and my mother. The judge also dismissed any evidence I presented then granted her a three year restraining order. I just want to see my daughter and apparently I am not allowed to be upset. I messaged her and asked why she was doing this to me and now I am being charged with a crime by the DA and I am the victim. My daughter who on her tenth birthday said to my mother " only 8 more years grandma" my daughter is being abused by her mother and I can't do anything about it. The legal system in this country is flawed to the core. For all those fathers out there in the same situation I say fight back any way you can. These judges and law enforcement get there authority from us the people. We have allowed these individuals to have to much power over our lives and our children's lives for far to long. This country was founded by those who where against oppression. We need to fight back as a group to fix a flawed system for the sack of our kids and there kids and all future generations. Until we stand up for our rights the system and our country will continue to decay.
ReplyDeleteI was served a protective order of 5 months in Utah, I followed that order to the letter. I had moved on to Texas immediately after being served and accepted the 5 month term. I'm now being accused of violating an additional restraining order that was placed. I was never served anything after that nor informed. They claim I violated this order by Facebook messages. I would like for them to review the plaintiff's digital evidence along with my defense that I was never served the RO after the PO I was actually given for 5 months. I made no contact what's ever with them or anyone they know. I want to state that have not seen the evidence directly at all. Only knowing that it's alleged Facebook messages. I'm claiming by oath that I have not contacted her or anyone she knows and that I have followed all order given to me. For example. If there is only the data evidence that is not provable. (1 RO was unserved (2 Evidence is not provable - in a hypothetical general sense. Can the result simply be an official serving of the order since I made arrangements to appear in court to recall the warrant or will it be dismissed. I don't really have a preference to either result. I'm more focused on general complications or what the judge can do which might seem against the standard rules. Like assuming I'm guilty without solid evidence or proof and just jailing me. any opinions anyone is willing to share about what I'm expressing are welcomed. Based on everything I discussed with the prosecuting attorney before being assigned a public Def. as well many articles and blogs. I believe that at worst an official order will be given with no penalty of being punished with jail or fine aside from standard court fees. I don't think it's reasonable to even assume or think this way. However I rationally feel that is the result. Thoughts or advice? I simply want to return to work without a criminal record. an RO is acceptable by me as long as I get to live in different state.
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