This is a question from a reader in Oregon, please comment if you can offer any help.
I'm helping a friend contest a restraining order that his ex of just now a year is trying to renew for the 2nd year and get a stalking order/protection order against her.
She has been catfishing him portraying herself to be someone else and making him think she is interested in dating him. They were in contact over messenger her contacting him trying to set up times and places to meet
and every time he went he would run into his ex girlfriend the one that has the protection order against him, at the beginning she convinced him to exchange pictures,
and exchanged sexual talk but he finally was realized after the 4th time of trying to meet up.
and the ex showed again it has to be her catfishing.
Another night she approached myself and his other friends slandering his name and causing a huge scene,
the only way she would of known we were his friends is by her stalking his social media accounts.
How does he protect himself from her?
We have court on the Aug 4th,
I had him fill out a stalking/protection order to present to the judge at the hearing.
hoping the order will be granted in his favor.
She has been catfishing him portraying herself to be someone else and making him think she is interested in dating him. They were in contact over messenger her contacting him trying to set up times and places to meet
and every time he went he would run into his ex girlfriend the one that has the protection order against him, at the beginning she convinced him to exchange pictures,
and exchanged sexual talk but he finally was realized after the 4th time of trying to meet up.
and the ex showed again it has to be her catfishing.
Another night she approached myself and his other friends slandering his name and causing a huge scene,
the only way she would of known we were his friends is by her stalking his social media accounts.
How does he protect himself from her?
We have court on the Aug 4th,
I had him fill out a stalking/protection order to present to the judge at the hearing.
hoping the order will be granted in his favor.
In my opinion you need to be careful because she may be trying to allege that your friend violated the 1st order when he went to meet with her after her "catfishing". In that situation your friend will have a more serious problem than just the possible renewal of her order or whether he can get an order in the reverse direction: he faces possible criminal charges for violating the 1st order. Yes, the first alleged violation may have been accidental and he didn't know she was catfishing. But if he met up with her a total of four times in response to alleged catfishing, it will become increasingly difficult for him to claim that he didn't know what was going on.
ReplyDeleteRemember that a restraining order bars ALL contact (assuming that is what the order says); there is no exception allowed for contact that the protected party initiates or encourages. In my view your friend needs an attorney. Yes, there may be a case for an order in the reverse direction, but the danger of an allegation of one or more violations of the 1st order requires an attorney. If you don't have an attorney yet, I would consider asking the judge for a continuance to allow your friend time to retain an attorney.
It is not unusual for someone seeking a protective order to deliberately set up situations where there will be contact so as to create more evidence. Angela--the woman who got some now expired orders against me--did a bit of that although to be fair it wasn't to the extreme that your friend's ex seems to be doing. But your friend needs to be very careful because it sounds like an allegation has been made or is about to be made that your friend violated the order when he met up with the ex.
A Restraining Order Served
ReplyDeleteis an order used by a court to protect a person, business, company, establishment, or entity, and the general public, in a situation involving alleged domestic violence, child abuse, assault, harassment, stalking, or sexual assault. In the United States, every state has some form of domestic violence restraining order law, and many states also have specific restraining order laws for stalking and sexual assault.
a Process Server
person who serves legal documents, as subpoenas, writs, or warrants, especially those requiring appearance in court.