This is an email from a reader with questions about a Tampa Temporary Restraining Order filed against her by a guy she was seeing who turned out to be married.
The story is rather long but i would appreciate it if you could let me know if i can win the case or not. I have a court hearing in Tampa to defend myself against a
temporary restraining order being placed against me by a guy I had been seeing in Tampa for 10 years. I was in the process of ending the relationship but I did not before his wife found out. I received a call from his wife on a Sunday night and she said that I, my mother or aunt had been calling her job and home to tell her that he was in a relationship with me for many years. When I spoke with her I made it clear to her that I have never spoken with her,I have not spoken with my mother in months and my aunts are deceased. She told me that she was disturbed by these calls because they were made while she was at work and she has a daughter at home that she does not want involved in anything like this. I agreed with her but I still stressed that I don't know who made the calls. Whoever made the calls gave her my full first and last name which makes me sound guilty of the charges but I am positive and without any doubts that I have never called this woman.
I have an idea of who may have made these calls to her and she asked that I call her back if i can tell her who is doing this. I don't know if I should bring this up in court or not but her husband was also involved with another lady who called me on the night his wife found out exactly where he was and about our relationship. The previous Monday night, this other lady called me because the guy sent her a text message meant for me saying that he was on his way to see me. When she called me she asked if i had a physical address on him because she was putting a restraining order on him and I said I did not know where he lived. So she said she would look in the phone book. She also asked when was the last time I spoke with him and if I planned on seeing him anytime soon. I told her yes i was seeing him that night and I spoke with him earlier in the day.
She became furious and suggested taking off from her job and going down to his wife's job to tell her everything. I told her that was not a good idea but if he had been telling her that he is no longer seeing me anymore, we could confront him that night if she wanted to because at that point it was time for me to end things with him anyway. We were both going to confront him that night but all of a sudden his wife started calling him non stop. He said he had to leave because his wife somehow found out where he was.
I personally feel it could have been the other lady that did this. She is the only person that I know of that knows where his wife works, his home phone number and address which she said was in the telephone book in Tampa . She also knew exactly where he was when his wife kept calling him. It is a stretch to say she has impersonated me or my family members and called his wife alerting her to the relationship between me and her husband but that is the only person I know of that could have done this. My biggest mistake in this situation(besides being involved with her husband to begin with) was not being honest with her about me and her husband's relationship when she called me. I was so shocked to receive a phone call from her and even more shocked by the allegations that were being made against me that I denied having a relationship with her husband.
I sent her husband a text message the night she called asking what was going on and why was his wife calling me. I asked because I honestly did not know what is going on and why my name is being thrown around with false accusations. I even suggested that this other lady may have made these calls. He totally believes it was me that made the calls because his wife confronted him with my name and said it was me or someone in my family who has been calling her. He denies knowing the other lady at all. So he has filed a restraining order in Tampa accusing me of making harassing phone calls to his wife's job and home, driving past his home on several occasions, following him home one night, constantly text messaging him and denying the relationship between us.
I have some proof that he is lying about many things. I have a print out of my phone records from the past 2 months of all incoming and outgoing calls as well as all incoming and outgoing text messages to show proof of the relationship and that yes I constantly text messaged him and he did the same because we were in a relationship. The phone records will have the other lady's number on it if the judge in Tampa wants to call her and prove he is lying about not knowing her. And also to show that I have not called his home or his wife's job at anytime. I also want to show that no contact was made on my part since I had been served with the Tampa Restraining Order. I have all of his text messages, pictures and videos as well on my phone to show proof of the relationship. as far as following him home and him observing me driving by his home, these are just false accusations to try and add validity to his story. I have no idea where this man lives.
He has been calling my job and saying he is taking me to court in Tampa for harassing him. I have a statement from my coworker that has been notarized to give to the judge to keep him from contacting my place of employment. With the proof that I have, do I have a chance to win this case and get the Tampa Restraining Order thrown out or denied?
